Wednesday, June 27, 2012


Well busy, hot, and sweaty. I swear there are times there isn’t enough hours in the day to get what has to be done finished. At least the hay is cut. The garden is alive, despite the lack of normal rain and relatively weed free. I have a list of things to do and have enjoyed ticking off the completed items.

But the sad truth is we tend to focus on the things we have to do. Those are the things that weigh on a person. We’re adults and we have responsibilities. But summer isn’t just about the must do things. Isn’t also about fun? We need to take time to find the fun and joy of being.

Being a person who needs balance in my life, I realize I also need fun things to do. Things I enjoy. The quiet time sitting outside of a morning with a fresh cup of coffee and listening to the birds sing up the sun. The quiet chuckle over silly hummingbirds arguing over who owns the feeder—or the flowers. I have a pair of nesting swallows that have a nest every year in the eaves of my breezeway/patio. It’s always fun to watch them raise up their babies. My horses, cats, and Danes—all give me joy and I do spend a lot of time with them.

Laughter is one of life’s joys.

I've also had a chance to go to the theater and see some good movies. So far my favorite has been The Avengers. Visits to my family are always something I enjoy and in the summer I try to get down to visit every other week. Two weeks ago I took a day and just visited family. My mom and I had a great time laughing and joking and sharing life’s moments. My great uncle Buddy sent my mom a small book he put together of the fox ranch my grandfather had back in the 40’s and he raised mink in the 50’s. She grew up in the Hayward area of Wisconsin and the ranch was at Lands End. Very remote and still is.  Lots of pictures of the house he built for my grandmother, pictures of my mother as a girl, my great uncles and aunt. Some pictures I hadn’t seen of my great-grandmother and grandfather Adams. Weddings, holidays, and family parties. He did it in story form and my mom loves it. He’s a published author and a retired (well mostly) wildlife biologist. He written and co-authored quite a few non-fiction books on the subject.

Later that afternoon I spent time with my brothers sharing a few beers around the pool and talking kids, jobs, and the vagaries of life after forty. Damn those body parts anyway.

I’ve visited with a nearby friend; I call her the goddess of the woods. She’s full of laughter and fun. She is a fascinating conversationalist and natural healing practitioner. 

And I’ve read quite a bit. Currently I’m reading a really good thriller called 72 Hours by William Casey Moreton (and will be reading more of his work). Other excellent books I’ve enjoyed; I Own The Dawn The Night Stalkers, ML Buchman, The Flower Reader, Elizabeth Loupas, Midnight’s Master, Donna Grant. A non-fiction, You Are A Writer (So Start Acting Like One) Jeff Goins. I’ve read other good books but these are in the excellent category for me.

And writing. I’m having fun with my current story and characters. I’m writing slower than I normally do but it’s steady progress.

  • What have you done to balance out all the Must Do things? 
  • What are some things you enjoy doing away from the computer and internet?
  • Any fun vacation plans?

Making a living is not the same as making a life.


Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Sia .. what a great post - so much information there - how lovely that your great uncle put together the book for your mother - that will amuse and entertain her with memories and happy thoughtful times in the years ahead ...

Then that special time alone with your mother ... before sharing time with your brothers and 'goddess of the woods' ..

Love seeing a photo of your chappess "the Dane" - she looks wonderful ..

Making a living is not the same as making a life - what a great quote ... life is for living - love and live for the thought - cheers Hilary

KarenG said...

Ah this post makes me take a breath and relax, and think about the joys of life... If it weren't 2 a.m. I'd go outside right now and sit on my front porch and listen to the birds. Only the birds are asleep and I'm not. I'll come back and read your lovely post again later in the day to get balance!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

A great post all action packed.
Summertime maybe where you are but here?........say no more.


Jo said...

That was a lovely present. Your mom will really enjoy that for years to come.

I'm glad you are taking time to relax and enjoy life, much more important than doing things that you MUST. A lot of the things you MUST do will be there tomorrow. So enjoy your coffee.

Is that a picture of your hummer feeder? We never got more than one bird at a time at any of our feeders, the little blighters were so territorial and possessive.

~Sia McKye~ said...

@Hilary It was a lovely gift and one that has given her much joy. Uncle Buddy included some pictures that even Mom didn't have.

Spending time with my family is always special to me.

@Yvonne-Are you saying your summer is a bit on the rainy cool side? But you're near the ocean aren't you? I suspect that affects your weather too.

~Sia McKye~ said...

@Karen. Well this morning I didn't sit outside while the world was waking up I also was up at two this morning. AND slept in. lolol!

But you know what? Sitting on the porch or patio in the and watching the sun go down is equally lovely and peaceful. Or just at dusk when hundreds of fireflies rise from the grass and the peepers and katydids start their evening chorus. That's about the time the Whippoorwills start to sing in the distance.

For me, there is always a spot of peace and beauty when I'm outside. :-)

~Sia McKye~ said...

@Jo, My mom says the same--must dos will be here tomorrow.

Hummingbird are very territorial but I usually have 5or 6 at each of my feeders. This particular picture is from a place I've bought stuff. I loved it.

Johanna Garth said...

It sounds like your summer is par for the course. BUSY, BUSY! I love how you're managing to carve out time for fun though and will try to follow the excellent example you set!

Cherie Reich said...

I probably need to take more time to find some balance. Right now things have been rather hectic and insane, but I am looking forward to taking some time off at work soon.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Cherie, time off sounds good with the schedule you've had lately.

Finding fun and enjoyment doesn't mean playing all the time, simply taking the time to play regardless of our age. We need it. :-)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Certain must-do things I just ignore!
Everything in life is balance. Although four days of vacation will seem way out of balance for me. Hopefully I can sneak in some writing during that time.

Ella said...

Great post! I loved all that you shared~ :D I feel overwhelmed with work, but today it can
I'm going to go, cycling and pizza for dinner. No dishes will give me some more play time! It is too hot to bake, right!

I share a lot of the loves you do!
I enJOYed your sunny post ;D

Nicki Elson said...

How great to take a whole day and just kick back with your family, and what a wonderful surprise gift from Uncle Buddy.

I'm still working out the balancing act of summer, but I'm getting there. Thanks for this lovely post.

DL Hammons said...

Nothing big planned as far as vacations go, maybe a trip down to Louisiana to see the family. I'm on a writing roll so I'm pretty much just going with the flow right now! :)

Anonymous said...

This blog is great. Very developing and inspiring.


Liz Fichera said...

Your summer sounds wonderful! And a reminder to me that I really need to plan a vacation. :)

michelle said...

Ah, I always seem to go into r-e-l-a-x mode when I visit your place... sounds like your summer is moving along smoothly!
I love the closing quote...