Friday, January 14, 2011

A Fascination For Independent Heroes

My guest is contemporary romance author, Robin Kaye. She has a fascination for, what she terms, Domestic Gods. Her fascination gives me a read with lots laughter and always a great Happily Ever After.

Ahhh, those are the best kind of reads, aren't they? 

I asked Robin; what is the fascination with hot looking men who can cook and clean? I hope you enjoy her answer as much as I did. :-)

Independence is sexy and there’s nothing sexier than a man who can cook and clean and look good doing it. I figure if that’s what I want in a hero, that’s what a lot of women want and I have to write heroes with whom I’d fall head over heels in love otherwise it would never be believable. I love every one of my heroes.

So how did I get so hung up on guys with skills you might ask?

I dated a guy from Chicago, let’s call him Dick (and no, Dick was not his real name) I was living in Florida at the time and Dick came down often to golf. He looked just like Sting, knew how to dress, was a great dancer, and owned his own apartment building as well as a seat on the Board of Trade. Dick was young, successful, intelligent, fun to be with, and I thought he was everything I was looking for in a man until I spent a weekend with him. I was making breakfast and asked if he’d like to split an omelet. He said no, and proceeded to order breakfast, including fresh squeezed orange juice. I made a joke and he didn’t see the humor. He was actually serious.

Dick wasn’t shopping for a girlfriend or a wife, he was shopping for a maid with benefits. No matter how good looking or fun he was, I could never be with a man who would treat me like a servant. Needless to say, that relationship changed what I looked for in a significant other.

Let’s face it, in contemporary romance and real life, most women have careers and busy lives. They come home from work exhausted. After a terrible day is there anything more wonderful to hear than a deep voiced, gorgeous man ask, “Why don’t you get comfortable while I start dinner?” I don’t think so!

I married a Domestic God. When my husband and I were dating I always had to clean the house on Saturdays. He lived 60 miles away from me so he’d spend every weekend at my house (sleeping on the couch of course) under the watchful eye of my mother. Unfortunately, the house still needed cleaning. That first week when he offered to help I almost fell over with shock. Not only was he willing, he was an amazing cleaner--much better than I’d ever be! One day Stephen and I were cleaning and I ran into my mom’s room to tell her something. Together my mom and I walked into the living room and there was Stephen lifting the couch with one hand while vacuuming under it. My mother turned to me and said, “Marry him.” so I did.

Is it any wonder I write about men who cook and clean and know how to take care of their women? Stephen isn’t much of a cook, he can follow a recipe and as he says, he hasn’t killed anyone yet. When I’m home and not on deadline, I usually cook which is fine with me. I enjoy it. He does the cleaning which is also fine with me. When I started writing toward publication, he sat me down and told that since I had two jobs--I stay home with the kids and I write—and he only had one, he thought he should take over the laundry. Now to a harried mom of three who is always running around like a chick with her head cut off, there are no sexier words. Sigh…That’s why I love writing heroes like my husband. He might not cook like the Galloping Gourmet, but hey, it’s fiction. A girl can dream, can’t she?

Yours For The Taking Blurb:

He might be too good to be true...

Ben Walsh should be single. Handsome and wealthy, Ben is equally at home in Idaho where he grew up and in Manhattan where he's now an art dealer. Suave and successful with impeccable taste, he normally has women beating down his door. But the one woman he wants can't be convinced that he's for real...

And she doesn't have the luxury of believing in fairy tales...

Gina Reyez has fought for every bit of her success, and it's about time for things to start going her way. So when Ben makes a proposal that will allow her to take care of her family the way she wants to, she agrees. Besides, a guy this perfect would never be interested in her...right?

By the time Gina figures out that she's read Ben all wrong, their lives have become intertwined, and seriously complicated... Excerpt 

Sia – Thanks so much for inviting me! I’ll give 2 lucky commenters a copy of my new release, Yours For The Taking and I’ll be checking back frequently so if anyone has questions, just ask away!

Robin Kaye was born in Brooklyn, New York, and grew up in the shadow of the Brooklyn Bridge next door to her Sicilian grandparents.

Living with an extended family that's a cross between Gilligan's Island and The Sopranos, minus the desert isle and illegal activities, explains both her comedic timing and the cast of quirky characters in her books.

She's lived in half a dozen states from Idaho to Florida, but the romance of Brooklyn has never left her heart.

She currently resides in Maryland with her husband, three children, two dogs, and a three-legged cat with attitude.

Robin is the author of; Breakfast In Bed, Too Hot To Handle, Romeo Romeo.


Tara Maya said...

I couldn't agree more. Nothing sexier than a hunk who can treat you to a gourmet dinner ... that he cooked himself!

Tara Maya
500 Words

~Sia McKye~ said...

Tara, my domestic god can't cook a gourmet dinner, but he does clean, do laundry, follow a recipe, and is an excellent breakfast cook--thanks to his parents restaurant.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Robin, welcome back to OVER COFFEE! I can't wait to read this one. I love your humor. I really enjoyed your article, too.

Plenty of goodies on the Coffee Bar. My domestic god works so couldn't be here to serve you ladies and gents. He's one of those charming Italians. My hot Marine is glad to step in and help tho. :-)

Jenyfer Matthews said...

Wow - I think I just fell in love with your husband, LOL!

My own hubby wasn't much of a housekeeper when we met, but he could and did cook. He did all of the cooking the first five years of our marriage and I enjoyed every minute of it. Now that I'm at home, I do most of it, but from time to time I still pass the buck to him. And what a thrill it gives me when he does the dishes!

I love the blurb of your book and I have a couple of Amazon GC burning a hole in my pocket...

Robin Kaye said...

Hi everyone and thanks, Sia for having me back. I had a lot of fun writing the blog.

@Tara - I knew most woman would feel the same way. Let's face it, we all dream of being pampered!

@Jenyfer - I love the way you spell your name. That's the first time I've seen it spelled that way (well, other than the other day when you commented on another blog) Yours for the Taking is the 4th in the series, they are definitely stand alone, but some people want to read them in order. If that's the case for you. Romeo, Romeo, Too Hot to Handle and Breakfast in Bed are the others.

Judi Fennell said...

Having met Stephen, I can attest to the Gods part of the Domestic Gods thing. ;) Give him a hug for me, Robin!

Kat Sheridan said...

You had me at "lifting the sofa with one hand and vacuuming under it." Sigh.

When I met my own "domestic god" he'd never cooked in his life. Nothing. Nada. His ex was a gourmet cook and fulltime housewife. I was a sloppy project manager working 24/7/365.

I taught him the basics of cooking (give a man a grill and he will learn to cook ANYTHING). He hired a cleaning lady for me. Yeah. Domestic gods come in all styles!

Jo said...

Sadly Gods fade with age. Neither of us do much in the way of cleaning these days - someone comes in once a month. However, my domestic God still cooks - more often than I do these days. When we were younger, he was strong, handsome, and extremely fit having been a gymnast a large part of his life. He cooked and cleaned like a professional. Ah well.

Robin Kaye said...

@ Judi - Thanks for stopping by! I'll do that just as soon as he gets home! Hugs back at you!

@Kat - I'd be happy with a cleaning lady that way Stephen and I could spend more time together.

@Jo...a gymnast huh? Wow, talk about hunky, those guys have the best arms ever! That's so great that he cooks!

Kristin said...

My husband went to culinary school...but somehow I still do most of the cooking. How is THAT fair I ask you!? To his credit, he cleans the house more often than I do.

The book sounds great! Can't wait to read it.

Barbara said...

Can't say my hubby is a domestic God but he's great about hiring a housekeeping service. I don't care how it happens, I just don't have to scrub toilets!

And I'm afraid the kitchen is "my" territory. He makes a mean omelet but hasn't branched out simply because I enjoy cooking too much!

Robin Kaye said...

Kristin - My sister's husband was a chef. His excuse was he knew how to make 50 gallons of soup, just not 8 quarts. I introduced him to the concept of division. He went to law school shortly thereafter and doesn't cook much any more but I'm told he made her Chicken Kiev for her birthday dinner.

Barbara - As long as you're happy, that's all that counts!

~Sia McKye~ said...

As Kat says, Domestic gods come in all styles. I've met Kat's and he's a sweetheart, :-)

Hiring a cleaning service is an act of a caring man, so far as I'm concerned.

@ Robin, are you saying the division lessons were so hard he decided to give up cooking? Or he figured since he mastered division he could accomplish anything so took on law school? there's a story in here somewhere, lol!

Julie said...

I fall a little bit in love every time a guy whips up something (edible) for me in the kitchen--mostly because I am a complete mess there. My strengths are in organizing and cleaning, so I'm happy to do the dishes. Thanks for the chance to win!

James Rafferty said...

Ok, I'll weigh in from a guy's perspective. I was out on my own as a single for a fair number of years and quickly decided 1)I liked good food, 2)Nobody was likely to cook for me anytime soon and 3) I had several friends who could cook, so I could probably learn how too.

Ergo, time to spiff up my cooking skills. I started with a Chinese cookbook, bought a wok in Chinatown (NYC) and began to cook. The results were tasty, so I kept buying cookbooks and learning from friends, extending my repertoire. When I eventually did find my mate, we both cooked. These days, I'm working more hours, so my cooking is mostly on the weekends, but it's still a great skill to have. My oldest son has learned from both my wife and I, so he's carrying on the tradition.

~Sia McKye~ said...

James,no wonder when I read your sojourns in various travel areas and the food it makes my mouth water. I didn't realize you cooked too. Must have missed that somewhere. Kudos on teaching your boys to be capable men.

I do teach my son how to cook. Simple things but he takes turns doing dinner. He knows how to clean and do laundry but I gotta tell you, he doesn't like to. I tell him girls are impressed with men who can cook and take care of themselves. He's not totally convinced just yet, but he's about to turn 16 so there's time.

Jane said...

Congrats on the new release, Robin. My dad is a great cook. I would like to think there are many men out there who love to cook.

Mason Canyon said...

Sia, a great interview. Love learning more about Robin.

Robin, I enjoyed YOURS FOR THE TAKING. It was a great read. I know it just came out, but I'm already looking forward to your next release.

Thoughts in Progress

VA said...

For our first date, after returning from a trip to Australia, my husband made me homemade pasta, sauce and fudge. Technically, they were called brownies, but really, they were fudge. But the best part is when I'm sick he makes me chicken soup. I can cook, but knowing and having some else coddle you when you're down is just the best. Besides, what could be sexier than a man taking care of his mate?