Wednesday, November 21, 2012

TEN THINGS I'M THANKFUL FOR




KEOKE COFFEE
Ingredients
1 ounce Kahlua
1 ounce crème de cacao
1 ounce brandy
1 cup freshly brewed coffee
Whipped cream
Directions
Combine Kahlua, creme de cacao, and brandy in a large mug or heat-proof glass. Add one cup of fresh brewed coffee and stir. Top with whipped cream.
Makes 1 drink. 




TEN THINGS I’M THANKFUL FOR:


  1. ALL my appliances work (now about that light switch in bathroom…)
  2. I have a short commute to work this winter.
  3. I don’t have 3 feet of snow to shovel (sorry grandma).
  4. didn't have to deal with no electricity, floods, winds, hurricanes, or tornadoes. THIS year.
  5. My 18 year old is FINALLY mastering deductive reasoning and the principle of cause and effect. It’s only taken…never mind.
  6. That my husband does dishes, laundry, feeds the critters, cooks a fab breakfast, brings me coffee, and cleans (next week, the cat box).
  7. The rancher on the next property finally realized he was missing a bull and 3 cows and came and got them from my pasture—before my dogs went mute from excessive fits of barking.
  8. That there is more than one use for lasagna pans.
  9. That the family Thanksgiving Dinner is at my mom’s house (I did mention I have a large family) and my 2 Wild game potpies and 3 desert pies are all cooked. Whew!
  10. That God gave me a well-developed sense of humor and good friends to handle life’s glitches.

Laughter isn't just good medicine—it’s life’s saving grace.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Monday, November 19, 2012

MONDAY MUSINGS: REMEMBERING HOLIDAYS PAST





The twenty-four pound turkey was cooked to perfection. It was my first Thanksgiving turkey, all golden and as pretty as the picture in the cookbook. The stuffing was fabulous. I couldn't wait for my mom and dad to see it. But first, it had to make it to northern Idaho before it graced my parent’s table. I had researched and talked to a chef I knew at a restaurant in town about how to take it out with about thirty minutes left to cook so when it was warmed up in the oven it wouldn't be overcooked. I even made a rich broth to inject so it wouldn't be dry and extra for the gravy to be made in when I got to moms.
 
My husband and I were stationed in northern California and I was still getting used to the oddness of warm temperatures and sunshine in November. It felt strange baking a turkey and pies in summer like weather—but I was excited about making the meal, the trip north, and seeing everyone’s faces when I put that turkey on the table. The pies were so pretty, too, with all the cut pastry autumn leaves set atop the pumpkin pies.


Everything was finished the night before we left. I had a special pan with a top for the turkey and containers for the pies so and we rigged up a place in trunk of my Cougar XR7 to put them so they’d be safe and cool for the journey. At 6:00 a.m. Wednesday morning I was carefully packing it all up for the drive north. We figured we be driving up the drive way to my parents’ house between 8-9:30 p.m. It was a bit overcast since we were expecting rain and such a difference from the bright sunshine the day before. We were excited and primed for a fun trip north.


It was the trip from hell.


Unbeknownst to us, the California drought had elected to end the day we left. We knew there would be rain but not how much. By the time we got to the Oregon border we heard that the rain could turn to slush and snow in the upper Siskiyous. Being young and adventurous—read not having the sense God gave a gnat—we pressed on. It was awful by late afternoon. Mountain passes were being inundated with record-breaking precipitation. We had no problems driving through the rain into the mountains; it was driving through the two feet plus of snow coming down the passes and facing ‘chains required’ that became the problem. Oh and getting out of them alive.

We were halfway through the passes and figured we’d beat the heavy snowfall. Pfft—that snow hit and hit hard. We were screwed either way. Not a lot of places to stop up there so the stupid gnats, I mean we, pressed on. Let me tell you, there are places up there that guardrails are non-existent. All those gorgeous visas you see off to the right where the ground drops away hundreds a feet? Not so pretty when you’re driving slippery roads downhill and limited visibility—not to mention brainless people driving too fast for the road conditions. Both Dan and I had lots of experience driving in snow and we were careful but you can’t control others.

Like the car almost a quarter of a mile ahead of us pulling a U-Haul. I had noticed it slipping and the U-Haul trailer weaving a bit and had backed off, letting distance grow between us—just in case. When they hit black ice and lost control I saw it. I don’t panic in dangerous situations. I’m very calm and focused but I’ll admit I felt fear as I watched it unfold.

Oh. My. God.

My heart jumped and I could feel the sharp tingles of adrenaline surging through my body as I lightly tapped my brakes. I knew the moment my car lost its grip with the road and spun towards the right side and the drop. I fought with all the strength and skill at my disposal to keep my car from going nose first over the drop and death. I turned the wheel hard to swing the back end around and away from the drop. Two 360-degree turns are fun at amusement parks but not so much on icy downhill grade. I wrestled with the wheel to bring the car back towards the snow packed median while sliding downhill and finally got the hood aimed in the right direction.

My husband had been sleeping in the passenger seat and my dog in the back and Dan woke up shouting and the dog came flying from the back window, where she had been laying, and hit the back of the passenger seat. I dimly heard her kayoing from floor. I didn't have time to soothe anyone. My entire focus was fighting to stay on the slick road. The car slid sideways toward the median and I corrected the trajectory so the left side of the hood was pointing in the correct direction. I didn't want to hit it the wrong way and slingshot the car back and across the road and off the precipice. I needed the snow to grab the car and hold it. It did but I still slid about twenty-five feet against the snow bank made by the snowplows before getting the nose and wheel right.

Ka-thunk 

I did it.  I dropped my head to the steering wheel, breathing in and out. It felt good to be able to do so. Thankfully no one had been behind us. 

I was bruised. Dog was bruised but okay. Dan was doing his Italian sputter with colorful metaphors, so he was okay, too. But we were alive and the car in one piece so far as I could tell. I didn't give myself but a moment to take stock before getting out of the car to assess the damage and how soon I could get back on the road. We couldn't stay there.

I was stuck in the snow bank. Oh yippy kai yay. But, it was better than the alternative.

I waded through the snow on the left of the car—at least three feet of snow between the car and the concrete—and decided we had to dig left front tire and fender out the snow. While Dan cleared the road area in front of the car I cleared the back tires and then we went to work on the packed snow and ice holding the left front tire and fender. Your hearing is acute up in those passes and I heard the semi’s air breaks and jingle of heavy chains long before I saw it. He was in control and gently braking as he came down to where my bright red hazard lights were flashing in the dark.

Sam’s truck was the last vehicle allowed through before they closed the pass. Sam chose to come through the pass to help us.

He came to a stop about thirty feet behind us. One of the truckers going the opposite direction had warned him about us. The last he had seen was our car heading towards the drop. Another trucker a bit behind him said we did some fancy driving and drove into the median snow bank and were digging the car out. Sam helped Dan dig away all the snow from the front of the car—which wasn't even scratched, btw—so he could attach a thick tie-down strap to the front of the car and then pulled us out of the snow bank.

Sweet dear man.

Sam shared some hot sweet coffee with us. Said since I had been driving and would continue to drive I needed it. He was right. I didn't have time for the shakes that were sure to come. I knew I had to get us down that last grade and out of the mountains. My knuckles were white as I gripped the steering wheel and followed Sam down the last steep grade to fairly level ground. Officers and a paramedic were waiting for us to be sure we were okay. The others were still up where the U-Haul went off the road.We were fine which is more than I can say for the other car. They set a thirty-minute observation for us and it gave us time and get warm and rest a bit. Those donuts sure were good.

Sam came back from his truck with some hot chocolate/coffee mixture with some marshmallows on top and made it a point to tell me a woman needed chocolate in cases such as this.  That chocolate about kicked my ass. He laughed and winked at my expression when I took the first sip and realized there was brandy—just a bit—in that mix. Forty-five minutes later we were back on the road and on our way to Portland where we would spend the night before pressing on to the family.

By the next day it was much easier to drive on northeast to my parent’s house. There was lots of snow but well plowed roads. My dad and brothers were waiting with the trucks to take us up the mountain. No way my car would have made it the three miles up the mountain to the house.

Thanksgiving was celebrated by candlelight on Friday evening that year. One pie was slightly crushed by something in the trunk that had crash-landed on it during the wild ride. My family still oooh and aahed over the turkey and fixings.

The silly gnats had a lot to be thankful for that year.

  • Any memories you'd care to share?



Happy Thanksgiving!

Thursday, November 15, 2012

SARA HUMPHREYS: Pros & Cons of Working From Home





Working from home is actual work and has its own set of challenges. Up until four months ago, I held down a full-time job outside the home. I’d been juggling the day job, a growing writing career, four sons, a marriage and the house stuff for the past several years. After many soul-searching (and bank account scrutinizing) conversations, my husband and I came to the conclusion that I would become fully self-employed and work from home.

Whooo hoooo! No more being at the mercy of someone else’s timetable. No more late night events or weekend command performances.

No more steady paycheck. Wait. That one isn't as fun.

There are sacrifices being made in order to pursue this self-employed career path but it’s worth it.  The only problem is that when people hear that you work from home, you can tell that some of them don’t think it’s actually work.

Not true.

I work every day and while I’m not at the mercy of someone else’s day to day schedule, I am still on deadlines. I still have responsibilities to meet. One benefit of working from home is that I don’t have a “boss” looking over my shoulder. That’s nice. The challenge is that I have to kick my own ass and be more disciplined than I’ve ever had to be before.

The temptation to fiddle around on the net, or read a great book or watch a great movie on television is always lurking around the corner. Don’t get me wrong there are days when I will do one of those things but that only means more work the next day.

One of the other challenges working from home is that when my kids get a day off, then I have to take the day off of work. I have discovered that I get a whole lot of nothing done when they’re home from school but that’s way it should be. One of the major reasons we pulled the trigger on this life change was so that I could be fully available for my boys. So if they have the day off then that day turns into a non-work day for me and that means double the work the next day.


You’ll get no complaints from me about this gig.  The advantages far outweigh the challenges.  Here are my favorites.

·         I make my own schedule.
·         I don’t have to get gussied up for work and can stay in my gym clothes all day if I want to.
·         I do something I’m passionate about and work hard at it every day.
·         I’m more accessible for my children and what they need.
·         I’m happy.
·         I’m a lucky woman.

  • How about you? What are the pros and cons of your job?



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UNTAMED 
BY SARA HUMPHREYS – IN STORES NOVEMBER 2012

An ancient race of shapeshifters has lived secretly among humans for thousands of years...they are...the Amoveo

HER WORST NIGHTMARE IS COMING TRUE...

Layla Nickelsen has spent years hiding from her Amoveo mate and guarding a devastating secret. But Layla's worst fear is realized when the man who haunts her dreams shows up in person ...

HE HAS FINALLY FOUND HER...

William Fleury is as stoic as they come, until he finds Layla and his feelings overwhelm him. She won't let him get close, but then an unknown enemy erupts in violence and threatens everything Layla holds dear... EXCERPT


Sara Humphreys has been attracted to the fantasies of science fiction, paranormal, and romance since her adolescence when she had a mad crush on Captain Kirk. An actress and public speaker, Sara lives in Bronxville, NY, with her husband, who is very considerate of her double life, and four amazing boys. 

For more information about her books and to join her street team, please visit www.sarahumphreys.com or follow her on Twitter, @AuthorSara





Wednesday, November 14, 2012

DEFINING CHARACTERS





It's my pleasure to have contemporary fiction author and fellow blogger, Helen Ginger, as my guest today. Helen leads a busy life as an author, teaching public speaking and workshops, works as an editor, and book consultant. She is also an incredible resource for writers and bloggers alike. 
Today she talks a bit about defining characters through actions.

How do you define characters without saying, this person is strong or this person is mean or this person is reliable? If you're the author of the book, you don't say these things. You show their personalities through their actions. If you're reading a book, you come to know what kind of people they are through those actions.  Like in life, actions speak louder than words.

Angel, the main character in my book, Angel Sometimes, shows who she is over the course of the book. If you read the back cover blurb then you know that when she was 12 she was taken 800 miles from home and left on the streets. She was just a child, alone. But the book is not about her at 12; it's about her at 22. She's grown. She's an advocate for the homeless. She has friends. And she still has the plan to go home and confront her parents.

The streets made her strong. When she was 16, she hitchhiked to Austin, and found a help wanted sign at a bar/restaurant. Every day she waited outside for the owner to show up. Every day she asked for a job. Every day he said no, she was too young. On her 18th birthday, he hired her. He had no idea how close she was to dying.

Because of the life she had growing up, she's what I would call an "old soul." She doesn't remember a time when she didn't work - and scrounging for food is work, an even harder job than she has swimming as a mermaid in the bar/restaurant. She's built a life for herself and for others that she's helped. But she hasn't forgotten the past. Nor has she forgotten her plan to go home.  All she needs is a car, her G.E.D, and a gun.

As a reader of Angel Sometimes, you live her life as an adult. You find out what happened to her as a child. When she goes home, you go along with her.

I define Angel as a strong person. Someone told me they saw her as an old soul. I've had readers ask when the next Angel book will be out. I hadn't planned on a sequel, but the more I think about it, the more I'm wondering if she has another tale to tell. After all, she is a survivor.



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ANGEL SOMETIMES

Just before her thirteenth birthday, Angel Sometimes' aunt took her 800 miles from her home in Oklahoma, gave her $50 and left Angel on South Padre Island, Texas. 

Four years later, Angel hitchhiked to Austin and got a job swimming as a mermaid in a bar in the music district. At twenty-two, she has friends and a place to live. When a homeless girl is beaten and a waitress killed, Angel realizes she will never be whole until she confronts her parents. 

She needs three things: her high school diploma, a car and a gun. She has a car. She's finished her final test for her GED. The only thing she needs is the gun and she knows where to get one. 

Preview (on Amazon)






Helen Ginger is the author of Angel Sometimes, three non-fiction books with TSTC Publishing, and a contributor to the short story anthology, The Corner Café. She's also the Coordinator of Story Circle Network's Editorial Services.  Her free ezine, Doing It Write, which goes out to subscribers around the globe, is now in its thirteenth year of publication.  She’s also an Owner/Partner and Webmistress for Legends In Our Own Minds®. 'Course, what she gets asked about most often are her three years as a mermaid at Aquarena Springs. Swimming with a shimmery tail, picnicking underwater, performing synchronized ballet, blowing air bubbles ... all year round, even in the winter.  

You can follow Helen on Twitter  or connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and her blog, Straight FromHel .

Friday, November 9, 2012

BRINGING BACK THE SPARK—Writing Three-Dimensional









To me, the connotation of “spark” is putting life in your writing.  I think you can have a distinct voice and still not quite have the spark there. For me, it’s that moment when my characters become real, or come to life on the pages.  They act and react realistically, and not always as I may have originally envisioned the situation. It’s not so much you, the author, writing their lines…more like you as the author are channeling your character’s lives on to the pages of your story.

One of the ways I know I haven’t gotten the spark is when I've written something and there is that niggling feeling that tells me something isn't right or something is off in this scene.  It feels…flat.  Like I'm playing with paper dolls and moving them around the story. It might be that I’m trying to force my characters into a situation, or plot area, they wouldn't be in, or have them reacting in a way, given their backgrounds, they wouldn't  Or I’m trying to take the easy way out in solving their problems.


I think about how an actor approaches a role. As an actor, you have to step into your character, see who they are, how they react, understand what their goals are, what their motivations are, and what their conflicts are. Once you understand those things, then you know how these characters will act and react in pretty much any situation.  You have to be able to do that to portray them in a play or on the screen.  An actor can know the character they are depicting so well, that if a scene is rewritten they can and will argue it isn't right, the character wouldn't do this or that.

I think as a writer we need to do the same. We have to know our characters well to do justice to them. Some writers put together elaborate files on each character, likes, dislikes, favorite colors, etc.  My files aren't that elaborate. Many times I don’t have the character file when I start my story.  I do by the end of the story. I usually write the beginning of the story. My file grows as I write.  This is also where I dump exposition edits I've done that define my characters, things I need to know, but my reader doesn't.

There are times when something doesn't feel right but I can’t put a finger on it, other than my characters are feeling flat. It’s time for what I call Dr. Sia’s couch time. I put my characters on the psych couch and start analyzing them. I will sit down and write out each main character’s goals, motivations, external and internal conflict.  I do this with the villain too. By the time I’m finished, sometimes before I've finished, I usually have that ah-ha moment and I can see clearly where I went wrong. The black moment is in the wrong place, or I’m making it a soft gray moment rather than black, maybe my hooks to draw my reader forward are dull or indistinct—not good.  Seeing what’s wrong may also mean some rewrites but it puts me back on track and my characters and story again become three-dimensional. It makes their reaction to conflict sharper. Reaching their goals sweeter.  It makes a better story. 

Life is good again because my characters are back to being real people acting and reacting realistically.  They cease being paper dolls I dress and move around the story. The spark is back and the one-dimensional cardboard character is gone.

Writers:

How do you know the spark is missing?

What do you do to get the spark back in the scene or story?


Wednesday, November 7, 2012

IWSG—SURVIVING CRITIQUES



CRITIQUING: There’s a big difference in being honest and being brutal—constructive and destructive







When I got serious about my writing, and wrote my first novel, I made a cazillion mistakes. I was such a newbie. 

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What saved me was entering a contest and in the course of that contest, I came into contact with real creative writers. That was my real prize—feedback and serious critiques, that and learning terms. What the hell did they mean when writers and judges would say ‘good bones’ and  ‘need to work on POV’? Keep in mind, I hadn't taken any writing courses in at least ten years and fiction-writing styles had changed considerably in that time. I didn't win the contest (which was a romance writing contest where you also received critiques from other writers and contestants) although I finished in the top 20% out of about 1200 entries. Not bad, considering the mistakes I made.

I like to receive honest critiques.  If something isn't working, I’d like to know that. I take my work seriously. I don’t hand my work to just anyone.  I tend to pick those who know what they’re doing, whose opinion I value, and who write the same genre or similar genre.   I like suggestions, questions, and I also love it when someone reads something that they really like or makes them laugh and they mention it. 

The contest taught me the need for a tough skin, which was reinforced by the first serious critique of my manuscript.  The poor thing about bled to death with all the red lining. CPR was difficult but it survived and so did I.  

But you know what?

She was right. 

She wasn't harsh, but she was to the point and honest. She’s a published author and one for whom I have a great deal of respect.

I've always said if you want someone to tell you your writing is wonderful, hand it to your family or your mother. I call that blowing sunshine and butterflies. 

You want honesty then give it to a fellow writer you respect. And then listen to what they say. Give yourself think about it a bit—once you get over the shock. 

And the sting to your ego.

When I critique, I’m never brutal or critique to hurt. I don’t believe in destructive critiques at all. There’s no point to them.  There’s a big difference in being honest and being brutal. Constructive critiques improve your writing or style. That’s what we want, suggestions or pointers on how to make the story stronger, make the characters more realistic, or how to plug those holes in our manuscript big enough to drive a Mack truck through.


I may have been writing all my life and won contests but that doesn't make me a great writer. Critiques will do that and the willingness to listen and learn.  A readiness to sharpen your craft and be willing to put your manuscript on a strict diet to trim away the excess fat so you can see those great bones in your writing.

  • What has been your writing experience?
                                           How do you feel about critiques?




Monday, November 5, 2012

MONDAY MUSINGS: People Are Amazing






Most of this past week went by in a blur. I was glad I lived in the Midwest rather than on the east coast. The most exciting thing in our life was some of the neighbors cattle deciding to come stay in our pasture including one young bull who has made himself quite at home. My dogs are less than thrilled and bark long and loud at him. He just placidly munches grass and watches the show. The horses are cool with all four or five of the cattle. 

The bull is probably about 14 months old, I'd say, and pretty sweet tempered.  Thankfully. My fences aren't set up to hold nasty bulls. They tend to walk right through them. We're not sure which neighbor he belongs to. Best we can tell, he and a few others found our pasture from walking the creek and then climbing up the bank to our property. I reckon someone will come looking for him and the few other strays eventually. Meanwhile, hubs has walked them back down to the creek area, several times, to encourage them to find their way home—with little luck. Apparently, they like it here. 

On the work front, I work a call center in the appliance division. I enjoy the work and the people I work with. This past week was quite busy with Sandy slamming into the east coast. So many of our call center personnel were unable to work due to Sandy so the rest of us picked up the slack so it was understandably busy. Thousands of appointments had to be cancelled and rescheduled due to power outages. What made it harder was the techs are working overtime to get to everyone and so we’re booking two and three weeks out. Thursday and Friday were dealing with many who had electricity again but their appliances were even more wrecked than when they initially called. It tickled me to hear how some of these appliances had been standing in water and yet still worked. Pretty cool actually.

This week we will be even busier as more and more people get electricity and need their appliances checked after all the enormous electrical surges on the power grids. I’m glad I’m not in customer relations right now. Yikes, they’re incredibly busy and will continue to be so.

I heard so many stories, in the process of setting up or cancelling appointments, of living through such a huge storm. Neighbors pooling resources. The people with generators setting up kitchens and neighborhoods sharing food preparations for everyone—can you picture that? There were others providing shower facilities and setting one generator up just for electronic recharging. One woman I spoke with said her husband and some of the neighborhood men had set up outdoor showers in a garage. Who knew so many hoses could be used for that and shower heads out of cans and plastic coffee containers. They had also made bonfires and if I understood her correctly, they used the fire to heat barrels of water—I have no idea where they got the barrels. Isn't it amazing what people can come up with when they put their minds to solving problems. If you want to read some heartwarming stories, check out Hurricane Sandy Acts OfKindness page on Facebook.

So, how was life in your neighborhood this past week?


Any amazing stories you'd like to share from the storm area?