Wednesday, October 26, 2011

THE JUGGLING ACT



My guest is paranormal romance author, Sara Taney Humphreys. She's a debut author of the new Amoveo Legend Series of shapeshifters. What I found interesting is she published the first book, Unleashed, herself and it became a "word of mouth sensation for booksellers in a major national bookstore chain".


Sara has lead quite an eventful life. If you're a Soap fan you may have seen her face on one of your favorites, or you might have caught her in one of her A&E productions. She's been a teacher for her own after school theatre for kids and went on to be a national speaker for Monster's Making It Count. These days she's a wife, mother, and the Director of High School and Community Relations.

As you can imagine, she's a busy lady and she shares how she juggles the balls of glass and the balls that bounce.





Like many authors, I have a job and a family. Writing is a solitary activity but like most writers, I do not live a solitary life and there are times when juggling all of it becomes more than I can handle.  I write whenever and wherever I can find the time. I write because I love to create and I’ve realized over the years, that I must have a creative outlet and without one I get….antsy.

However, sometimes the writing simply has to take a backseat because of all the juggling that takes place. No matter how much I love to write, my children will always be at the top of my priority list. I’m sure that goes without saying for all of us.

I had the pleasure of hearing Mary Higgins Clark speak at a charity event and she said something that really stuck with me… “I have lots of balls in the air that I’m juggling. Some are made of glass and some are made of rubber. I try to only drop the ones that bounce.”

That really struck a chord with me. My children and family are the balls made of glass and they can’t afford to get dropped because they could indeed shatter. However, there are also balls made of glass at my job or within writing—meeting deadlines for example—that could also shatter if dropped.

So how can we do it all and keep everything in- tact?

The answer is quite simple. We can’t.

Sometimes we drop the ball and hopefully it’s a bouncy one. So which ones bounce? In my house it’s laundry and housework. First of all, let me say how much I loathe doing both. Laundry sucks. It’s always there. You do it and five minutes later there’s another basket full. I have four sons and a husband who generate ridiculous amounts of laundry. Good God. I can only imagine how much there would be if I had daughters.

Housework is equally crappy. You clean something and turn around to find a new mess five seconds later. My children do not take the sole blame in this—our dogs contribute significantly to the mess. Dog hair is the bane of my existence. It’s on everything. Ugh.

Sometimes, I have to turn a blind eye to the laundry, dog hair and dishes in order to write so I can meet my deadlines and not shatter that hard-earned glass ball of publication.  Those housework type things can be ignored because sadly…they are they waiting for me when my writing goal is accomplished.

The other day, I was beavering away on a manuscript right after I got home from work. I had finally found a way around a problem I was having with my heroine and was deep into the scene when my son Jack came over to me with a Yahtzee game in his hands. He looked at me with those big brown eyes and asked, “Would you play with me?”

How could I say no? I have to be honest. In that moment, I wanted to tell him…No..or…I’ll play with you later.  It’s tough to get into that rhythm of a scene and walk away from it but I did. The truth was that Layla and William’s scene would be there waiting for me when we were done with Yahtzee. So I saved my work, closed the laptop and rolled the dice with my son.

When the stress of juggling all of it starts to grate on me, I remember how frustrated I was when I didn’t have an agent or a publisher…and then I remind myself how lucky I am to have all of these things in my life.  I’ll take the stress of juggling it all over not having it all. I’m a lucky woman, mother, wife, and author.


  • So how about you? What are you juggling? 
  • Which balls are made of rubber and which ones are made of glass?

Dream on and keep juggling!



UNLEASHED
BY SARA HUMPHREYS – IN STORES OCTOBER 2011

What if you suddenly discovered your own powers were beyond anything you’d ever imagined

Samantha Logan’s childhood home had always been a haven, but everything changed while she was away. She has a gorgeous new neighbor, Malcolm, who introduces her to the amazing world of the dream-walking, shapeshifting Amoveo clans…but what leaves her reeling with disbelief is when he tells her she’s one of them…And shock turns to terror as Samantha falls prey to the deadly enemy determined to destroy the Amoveo, and the only chance she has to come into her true powers is to trust in Malcolm to show her the way…

Get swept away into Sara Humphreys’s glorious world and breathtaking love story…Excerpt

Unleashed Book Trailer http://youtu.be/cvo-Z9AGE3o




Sara Humphreys has been attracted to the fantasies of science fiction, paranormal, and romance since her adolescence when she had a mad crush on Captain Kirk. An actress and teacher, Sara lives in New York with her husband, who is very considerate of her double life, and four amazing boys. 


For more information, please visit:

Sara's Website 
Sara's Blog
Sara on Facebook and Twitter
                

10 comments:

~Sia McKye~ said...

Sara, welcome to this side of Over Coffee! I like your personal story and the view of balls of glass and ball that bounce.

Like you, my family falls into the balls of glass category and my writing filters in somewhere after that. Writing is my main creative outlet.

Pull up a chair and enjoy the visit. :-)

Sara Taney Humphreys said...

Hi Sia- Thanks so much for having me here today. As fate would have it, I'm going to that annual charity event today with Mary and Carol Higgins Clark. How's that for timing? I'll pop back in later after the luncheon.
Best-
Sara

Jowake said...

I admire anyone who can keep so many balls inthe air. I once tried actual juggling and that was bad enough. Luckily, these days, I don't have to that any more being retired and ancient LOL. My blog is my creative outlet and housework, which I too loathe, is not something I give much thought to. Cooking on the other hand!!!!!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

She's right - we juggle so much. I can't ignore my job and I really can't ignore my wife. Besides, she won't let me.

Sara Taney Humphreys said...

@Jowake-Cooking is one are where I am completely lacking talent. Seriously...I suck at it. I think cooking is an artform and I have a lot of respect for anyone who does it well.

@Alex....LOL! Thanks for coming by today :)

Kat Sheridan said...

Sara, I loved your analogy! I spent too many years juggling, especially with work. And you know what? I discovered that some of the balls I thought were glass (that next big career move, that raise or promotion) were just cheap plastic after all. As for the house stuff, the bane of my life is bathrooms. I LOATHE cleaning them. But I do enjoy cooking and baking, so I'll trade duties gladly with somebody! Your book sounds wonderful! Best of luck with it!

Other Lisa said...

Seconding! Thirding? The Balls of Glass versus Balls of Rubber is just an awesome analogy.

And why can't laundry fold itself, anyway?

Thanks for this wonderful post!

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Dana Fredsti said...

Okay, accidentally signed in with my boyfriend's Google account instead of mine, so reposting!

Oh man, what a timely post for me to read... Sara, I feel like you wrote it just for me (I know you didn't), but I can't tell you how much I needed to read what you had to say about now. Fourthing how awesome the glass versus rubber balls analogy is...

It's funny - I was writing the other night and one of my cats (my kids all have paws) came up with a rubber ball in his mouth - he likes to play fetch - and dropped it at my feet with a hopeful expression. I had to stop writing and play with him. Not quite Yahtzee, but another thing in your post that really resonated.

ladyvampire said...

I like how well it was put. How you juggle balls of glass and rubber. My family is definitely glass. Everything else fluctuates back and forth. And when it comes to friends.. really you know they are real friends when they can be termed as rubber..when they understand if you accidentally drop the ball on them sometimes. Nothing ever goes 100 percent as you plan it.
Congratulations on Unleashed! I really need to get a copy of this one. Sounds so awesome.

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