Wednesday, January 29, 2014

WHEN CONFIDENCE WANES...





Writers face a lonely road. There are moments during our quest when goals lose clarity. Obstacles loom on every side, critics condemn our attempts, and those following our lead doubt our decisions. We begin to question ourselves and wonder if we’ll ever reach our destination. How do we maintain belief when the odds are against us?


When we first set a goal, our eyes are focused on the target. All attention and energy converges on reaching that point. As we move toward our destination, obstacles and distractions emerge. As our attention shifts from our dreams to these potential roadblocks, we lose sight of our target. Subsequently we begin to doubt our capabilities and convictions. If we are to succeed, we must restore faith in ourselves.

When our belief wanes, we must keep these things in mind:



We can control only one thing – our attitude! 
Our attitude determines our actions and reactions, whether positive or negative. Regardless of our circumstances, defeat cannot triumph when confronted with a positive outlook. Master a positive attitude and the battle is half won! 
We possess the ability to handle obstacles, but we must learn to focus. 
Challenges are easier to tackle if we stay focused on our target. The goal provides motivation and a reason to overcome the obstacle. In other words, we are more determined if we focus just on our dreams!

Ignore critics. 
While constructive criticism and feedback make us better writers, negative critics chip away at our self-esteem. Do not take those words to heart. When critics attack, simply smile and continue toward the objective. When we reach our goal, we’ll discover that most of these people have mysteriously vanished. 
We cannot compare ourselves to others. 
Our worth cannot be measured by someone else’s standards. When we focus on another’s accomplishment, we lose sight of our own achievements and value. Every writer is significant in his or her own manner. 
We need to take risks. 
Feeding our belief system requires that we step out of our comfort zone. We must be willing to move beyond our little corner of the world, both physically and mentally. Our confidence grows every time we stretch, further boosting our self-image. 
 
Failure is only temporary if we keep moving forward. 
We cannot lose if we refuse to give up and accept defeat! A writer’s life is full of temporary setbacks, but if we stay the course, those minor road bumps will fade from memory.

Our goal must be a burning desire! 
If we lack passion and excitement, our commitment level will grow weak. We’ll give up at the first sign of trouble. An intense desire will ultimately see us through to victory. 
Take time to recharge our batteries. 
Writing is a joy! We can’t let it become a burden or drag. Rather than beating our heads against the wall and growing frustrated, we need to take a break. Physically step away and do something else. Most creative people have more than one artistic outlet. Switch gears now and then. We'll come back refreshed and ready to tackle our goal with a renewed spirit.

16 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

If we focus on someone else's accomplishments, it will also depress us when we should be excited about our own.

Suzanne Furness said...

Thank you for this post it has given me a boast. Having just received another standard 'thanks but no thanks' email I was feeling a little down. Onwards and upwards!

~Sia McKye~ said...

Exactly, Alex. Success is different for each person. If we focus on another's success while diminishing what we've accomplished, because it doesn't match, it creates bitterness. That's not a quality that encourages finding our own creativity and seeing our own successes.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Ah, that's a tough one. Hugs Suzanne! And sure you're going to feel down--how can you not? But I like how you're using it to fuel onward and upward. :-)

Karen Walker said...

Brilliant, Sia. Such sage advice. Thank you.

WordsPoeticallyWorth said...

An interesting post that I enjoyed reading.

Thank you. Love love, Andrew. Bye.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Our attitudes are all we can control! Love all these tips. Teach them in my seminars and my book.

Liz Fichera said...

Great post! Wise words. Staying focused can be quite the struggle.

Mason Canyon said...

Inspiring post, Sia. Sometimes we do get bogged down by things about how great someone else has it and forgetting we should build on our own accomplishments (no matter how small). Without that drive, we really have nothing. Thanks for the reminders to keep pushing ahead.

Julie Flanders said...

I really needed to read this today. Wonderful post!

~Sia McKye~ said...

Thank you Julie. I think we all need reminders like this now and then.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Oh Wow! I actually got back on google! I haven't been able to access my blog or anything for 24 hrs. Ugh!

Slamdunk said...

Thanks for the encouragement. Being an introvert and always being "careful," getting myself to take risks can be a struggle. Certainly something that I need to do more of--one never knows until they leave a comfort zone and try.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Andrew, I'm glad you enjoyed the post. It comes from blood, sweat, and tears--typical with lessons from the school of knocks, yes?

Slamdunk--yes, it is hard to step out of the comfort zone. BUT, when we do, each step adds to our confidence. :-)

Tracy Jo said...

I needed this today. Great advice!

Margo Berendsen said...

That's so true, the one thing we can control is our attitude. We can't even control our characters most of the time!! :)