Monday, October 18, 2010

Maintaining Sanity

“...When the dog bites,
when the bee stings,
when I'm feeling sad,
I simply remember my favorite things,
and then I don't feel so bad.”

Life for the majority today is hectic. We're balancing family, jobs, and school. The emotional baggage of new relationships and old relationships. In between, we try to fit in our writing and deal with deadlines, major revisions from our editor, or rejections and yet continue to find the inspiration to create stories. Or simply find a way to recharge, to maintain our sanity and refresh our souls. Not an easy thing to do.

For me, it depends on mood. What works one time may not do for another time. Listening to music or reading a book. There are times meeting a couple of friends for lunch, visiting my sister and sitting on the front porch drink coffee and giggle over silly things. Other times I want to be somewhere boisterous, with lots of laughter and fun.

There are times I am able to recharge and feel refreshed by visiting with my writing group, The WritingWombats. On the Wombat threads I find laughter, teasing, and fun, interspersed with strong support and practical knowledge on how to make something work, especially when I've hit a wall in my writing. We have aspiring and published authors. I listen and watch them deal with proposals, juggling life and deadlines, not to mention the proverbial pulling out of the hair in frustration.

Sometimes I want to go someplace quiet but away from home. Those times, especially if I want to get my equilibrium, I head for the waterocean, river, lake, my pond on the lower 40. Sometimes it's heading to the family compound and having a cook-out and tall tales around the bonfire.

Or go over to my brother's pool house and bar, and be silly. Sometimes taking in a little league football game. Sometimes hanging out with my dogs. As the song goes, “...theses are a few of my favorite things.”

What refreshes your soul and spirit. What do you do to recharge? What helps you maintain your sanity and save you from being a Axe murderer and serving life without parole?

What are a few of your 'favorite things'?
All pictures here were either taken by me or for me.

Top, my Great Dane, Gidget and Callie Kitten,
Cappucino coaster set, Bodega Head, Bodega, CA
Sia and my brother Rob, at his bar St. Patricks.


Anonymous said...

One word: MEXICO.

~Jean C. Fisher

~Sia McKye~ said...

That'll work, Jean! lol!

Tonya Kappes said...

Hi Jill! I have to recharge a lot. You are so right when you wrote that what works one day doesn't work another. I can relate to that. In my life we go, go, go. So I love to just sit in my room doing a little meditation. That always seems to work in dire times:)

Jill Lynn said...

For me, reading a book that's so good it take my breath away inspires me to write. I think 'this is what a book should be. This is what I want MY books to be.' And it moves me to write.

Mason Canyon said...

Sia, love the photos especially the one of you and your brother. I'm like you in that it depends on my mood as to what can recharge me. Sometimes it's reading, sometimes it's listening to music (and even the type of music varies), others times I just enjoy a walk in the woods or a chance to relax and play with my two cats. Even a horseback ride sometimes does the trick. Love your post today. Reminds me to take a little time for myself.

Thoughts in Progress

Elle J Rossi said...

Hi Sia,

When I need a recharge I simple read. I'd say it works 99% of the time. And sometimes I can just close my eyes for a few minutes, shut the world out and only let back in what works for me. That one doesn't work nearly as often!

~Sia McKye~ said...

Mason, I've been known to take in a Rock Concert now and then too. My music taste is eclectic too.

That's my brother Rob and that's his bar, believe it or not,it's a private bar, not a public one. But we do have a great time when we get together and we're definitely silly.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Elle, reading has always worked for me. I escape to another world another time.

~Sia McKye~ said...

Tonya, a horseback ride, especially during this time of the year. :-)

sherilynwinrose said...

We have to curb our homicidal tendencies? Grin

Olivia Cunning said...

Sherilyn STOLE my comment. How dare she?!

I think I'm just becoming used to the insanity. If I could go to a rock concert once a week, I'd be peachy. Unfortunately they aren't held every week. I guess I'll just listen to my iPod.

VA said...

Lordy! Why do I fail at these questions? Favorite's coming...okay, maybe not.

I guess I'd say a really good laugh. My daughter gets those out of me when I least expect it and they're probably the best things ever.

Dana Fredsti said...

Having just survived running the hospitality suite at Bouchercon with my SinC group (1300 people and all of them demanding coffee), this is a particularly relevant subject. During the convention, I practiced yoga breathing, kept my sense of humor on 'high' (humor gets me through many things) and had access to good red wine throughout the day.

Generally I love my walks on the beach, snuggling with a purring kitteh, and reading.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

My guitar usually relaxes me.
Right now I'm losing my sanity. This too shall pass!

Anonymous said...

I have to get some sanity before i can maintain it. Hmmm, hard question.

Rebecca Cisco

Anonymous said...


Scotlane Farrell

~Sia McKye~ said...

What's that song, Becca? "I've always been crazy, but it's kept me from going insane." I find myself humming that frequently. That AND counting flowers on the wall, just sayin':-)

~Sia McKye~ said...

Scot? You say donuts and don't bring me any of the magical things? Sheesh. Éclairs? Please?

~Sia McKye~ said...

Sherilyn, I didn't say you had to curb them, lol! THINKING is fine, it's the life without parole I have a problem with. :-)

~Sia McKye~ said...

DANA, a sense of humor is vital, imho. Or not so humble. I utilize humor regularly. Of course there are the times it's hard to tell me apart from *Igor* with my laughter, but hey, I'm at least laughing and NOT reaching for the Axe, lolol!

I need to hear all about the conference.

Anonymous said...

I am just really glad, or maybe hopeful, that no one has recorded me in the last ten days. Hearing second hand what i have said, is scary enough. Eeek. :-)


~Sia McKye~ said...

That bad, huh? Okay, I'm putting away the Axe. And the horsewhip.

Here Bec, have some wine.

Deanna said...

I can tell you having a beer in that PUB might relax me!

~Sia McKye~ said...

That is the very best pub in the world, Deanna, but then I'm just slightly prejudiced. The bros are cool and so much fun, too. Yah, my favorite place.

Dottie (Tink's Place) said...

Hi Sia!

When I need to recharge, I usually try to bury my head in a comfort read. For me, that's usually something along the lines of dark urban fantasy, make it a little sexy... and I'm all set. I used to like to get away from it all, hang out at the local dance-a-porium, but not so much these days... I rather listen nowadays.

Dottie :)

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Sia .. I just love being with friends .. an afternoon out .. or film, or exhibition .. but I'm very happy with my own thoughts & so often these times are essential.

Outside .. fresh air - nature .. love your thoughts though .. we all have different soul places ... Thanks Hilary

Anonymous said...

Yes, lets add wine to this mix.

Great idea. Lol


Helen Ginger said...

Thanks for the great photos.

Occasionally, in the winter, what we have of winter here in central TX, we light the fireplace. That is a one of my favorite times. I'm hoping for a cold winter.

DEZMOND said...

oh, such lovely pics in this post, Sia (if we neglect the green costume on that guy:))))